Of Porn & Friendster.

There are two things in current life that I am having trouble understanding. And I would love for someone to shed some light on this and help me understand. The problem I have grappling with these issues of course stem from my very differing views from a lot of people, and I would be absolutely grateful if someone actually showed me the light.

1. Why do attached/married men & women add random people on Friendster? Actually scrap that, why do people add random people they never mean to speak to on Friendster? (even though Friendster is a little passe, with the very much sophisticated Facebook! =) )
See, my view is that Friendster is a way to keep in touch with people whom you have lost touch with. Which is why I prefer Facebook. It’s mostly to keep in touch with people you know and not weird sluts and hos and downright weird men. Actually just 5 minutes ago, since I dont use Friendster much anymore due to Facebook, I added abt a few weird friend requests for the heck of it, trying to see what’s the kick. (nothing’s kicking in yet) And yes, perhaps when you’re feeling lonely, you see some worthy candidate and you add them in hopes of being friends. Like a… marriage site I suppose. But what is the use of adding people for the sake of adding? Is it to make your list look good? Or is it because you’re really looking to make friends since you have so much of time for maintaining additional friendships?

2. And this is the tough one. Why do attached/married men watch Porn?
I don’t get this one! I really, really don’t. During a lunch outing with a couple of friends, guys & gals, we discussed abt this and the majority seemed fine with it, but something just doesnt seem right with the picture. See, if you have a Significant Other and you’re watching Porn to jerk off, I’m guessing, your Significant Other is not running in your mind during those moments of ecstacy but the oversized breasted naked women. How can that picture actually be right??? I can understand couples watching Porn to inject some excitement into their sex life, and single men, since obviously there cant be a Signifcant Other except maybe some girl he’s crushing on, but other than that, am I the only one who thinks that this is just very odd and disturbing??

I am throughly disturbed. And honestly, a little nauseated. I’m off. And again, would love for someone, just someone to shed some light. Ugh.

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4 Responses to “Of Porn & Friendster.”

  1. well it’s rather like having a secure, 9 to 5 job with dental and medical benefits but sometimes, wishing you could run away with the circus, or sail the seven seas or maybe write a novel : )

    it’s a fantasy. that’s all? of course, I’m merely speculating.

  2. People are strange (yes, that is a popular Doors song). Having friends on Friendster seems to have become somewhat of a competition. There really isn’t much keeping in touch going there,

    And also, I think for the most part, people are rarely satisfied with what they have. They’re always on the lookout for something else. Just my tuppence worth.

  3. No you see, I mean let’s reverse the situation here for a bit. Would a guy be totally, completely, 100% if his Significant Other was getting off by looking at fit, perfect-bodied, well endowed men?? Seriously? Where’s the fairness in that? I think it’s just that most girls link sex with emotion, and for most men, it’s physical. Sigh.

  4. 1. Friendster was in during the middle age. Facebook rocks, period.
    2. I get your point and yes you’re right most women link sex with emotions. Man are much different (and I don’t mean necessarily in a good way) and no matter the situation (married or not) sex is omnipresent. When in a couple, some guys tend to get “comfortable” and take the other for granted after a while. This means that no matter how good looking and/or talented with her charms a woman can be, the “for granted” factor will deviate the guys attention and he will need other visual aids to satisfy his cravings (I am making any sense, english is not my primary language). It is typically masculine but not necessarily normal. Somes guys look at porn to fill a “void” created by their own inability to share intimate moments with another person and some just look at it cause there’s nothing else on TV (ha, ha)

    But then again, poeple are strange and are not going to get better!! :o)

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