Lesson #02 of the Girlfriend’s Guidebook

If you are like me, a few of the most important qualities you look out for in a man shall be social grace, etiquette and manners.

I never knew how important these were in your partner and how differing views on this could severely affect the relationship. I used to apologise for and justify a previous partner’s behaviour. Perhaps it never was his fault. Perhaps he just was a major introvert. He can’t not like all my friends (could he?), but he often left a cold impression and people would ask me what was wrong and if he was okay and if things were okay between us. If this happened once or twice for valid reasons, he may be excused I suppose. However, if it affects you even a slight bit, talk it out and discuss with your significant other. Chances are, he might not even be aware of his aloofness and a demeanour that would put an iced seal to shame. But, please switch on your warning lights should he release nonchalant vibes, for that smacks of ill-mannerism.

When you introduce your man to your family members or friends, he should be warm and friendly. Not over the top chatterboxy, but at the very least appropriately polite and well-mannered. A firm handshake, a sincere smile and eyes that are interested are always a turn-on, no? (However, if you are one of those girlfriends who go psycho if your man even lifts his eyelids up to look at your girlfriends because you think she is wayyyy hotter than you are, this post is not for you! What handshake??? Alert, alert, abort read-blog mission!!!!!)

After introduction and saying goodbyes, there should be a slightly warm fuzz, and not a bitter aftertaste, that you are left to apologise for. Honestly, who likes cold, rude boys? If your feelings are not considered, and should he continue acting like a heartless brute, get the hint.

That goes to you too, girlfriends.
Always, always, mind your p’s and q’s. That is always hot. :)

Lesson #01 of the Girlfriend’s Guidebook

Never, ever, EVER paint a perfect picture of your relationship and your man to the world.
Let me tell you why.
Because, when things screw up, and your man does too, and plays victim, and people refuse to listen to you and listen to him instead, you shall be villified.
Terribly villified.
Because chances are, he is using your creation of an elevated status of the perfect man to cry foul.

That is the law, and things shall follow this progression.

Therefore, my dear fellow sisters, should any one of your girl friends happen to be in relationship trouble, the sanest thing to do would be to ask her. If she refuses to speak out of respect for her Ex (which she shall later discover to be undeserved), the next best choice should be her family members who have witnessed for themselves the fall of the Great Couplehood and the destructive spiral the ‘perfect’ man created, no? Therefore, we have to remember never to seek the reasons of a demise of the relationship from the scorned Ex. And the reason for that, my dears, is elementary.

However, if you do by any slim chance make the horrific mistake of approaching the Ex for so-called answers when you hardly knew him, and then do not get back to your girl friend because his villification has swayed you, do not even bother to declare that you have not taken sides, because my dears, you already have. And if this is too apparent to the rest of the word, you shall look neither unfoolish nor altruistic.

And finally, if you have some major doubts, you pick up the phone and make a phonecall to relevant parties who actually know the whole story because they have witnessed it for themselves, not characters from the outside circle. Now, how difficult would this be?

Class, any questions?